Selfish Trust

The fear of trust is one that plagues many people out there. Most people have issues trying to rid themselves of something that has become a part of them. How odd is it that trust can infect the soul so much when it is something you have not sewn? How does one expect to reap the benefits of a deep friendship or love when they can't trust the other person? On the surface it seems as if trust can be easy to learn, but in reality it is one of the leading causes to many failed marriages, broken relationships and insecurities.


How does one trust if they find themselves unable to do it, you may ask. Well if there was a simple formula then it would make one a wealthy person. Trust begins from birth and continues till the last breath. A child must trust his or her mother to nurture them, love them and protect them. An elder may need to trust their children, doctors or close friends to do many of the day to day amenities. See, trust is something that is so captivating to the soul that it scares the living daylights out of many.


The first thing to examine when attempting to understand trust is to first examine your own heart. Are you afraid to put your trust in someone else because you don't think they will be able to do the job you think they can do? Are you that superior to others in every capacity? Some of you may answer yes. If this is how you view life, as you being the superior being to all, then do you control time, weather, or life for that matter? With yourself being the only one you trust, doubt is no longer in the picture. You will never cry, hurt, or struggle throughout life. I do not believe for one second that man can go through life and never feel self-doubt for a single moment. The reality is that we cannot do everything on our own. We cannot control time, weather or life. In history, no earthly man has ever been able to be the all-knowing or doubtless.


The beauty of getting hurt is the glorious advent of healing. In that moment when your heart has been torn, the restoration that follows is strong and powerful. We learn from these moments and begin to understand our limits, our angles and the extent of how far we can trust someone. The common misunderstanding of trust is that you need to give up your whole heart to another individual in order for that to be considered trust. By doing that, you leave yourself vulnerable to complete brokenness. Trust should be given in measures. Begin first with your family. These are the ones that have been placed in your life to love you and to entrust their life in you. It is understandable that not everyone comes from a family that is filled with love, joy and strength. Many come from torn homes surrounded by destruction, emptiness and hatred for one another. Some of you that grew up in this type of environment will find it very difficult to trust someone after the hurt you went through growing up. Can I tell you that to judge trust based on the hurt you went through is to do trust injustice. The pain you went through did not stem from a lack of trust, but a lack of love.


Trust and love are two different entities. They cross paths many times. When you fall in love with someone, you tend to put your trust in them. When you trust someone, typically you have a love for them that is different than that of others. In their complete state, they are two different worlds coming together to strengthen one bond. This is an important aspect that needs to be understood when it comes to blaming a lack of trust on failed love.


If you look at trust in the areas of your friendships and surroundings, it should be a slow process. Get to know people, build a bond with them that is more the surface friendships. Some of you tend to pour out your entire lives to a stranger with no thought to how that person may perceive you or take that information to the rumor mill. I highly urge to you to be careful when doing this because you truly don't know someone until there is seasoning, through time, in that friendship. Grow, learn and open up.


What trust enables you to do is to open up about your feelings, struggles and issues that you may need to deal with. As you begin to trust more, you leave yourself more open to being hurt. Understand that you truly can never fully trust someone here on earth because we are all sinners in our ways. I will tell you over and over that you will get hurt in life because of broken trust. In the end, you will understand that the beauty in trust is that it lets you grow and become stronger. Through every journey in life we will have moments of being in the pit, but look up and see that there is always a light at the Top.


One day you will see that there is only one true Trust. He is the one that will never hurt you, leave you or abandon your love. Trust begins and ends with Him.


To give your trust is to lose some of your selfishness


That is Truth